That's right.
My traditional, supposedly God-ordained Biblically-based marriage is under
attack. By whom, you ask? Perhaps it is all the unmarried people who choose to
live together rather than marry. Or maybe the people who marry for
"love", but have no intention of producing children (isn't that the
true purpose of marriage? I've heard it said many times...). Maybe it's
the gays and lesbians who want to undermine this sacred, honorable institution
by having the state bless their union formally.
Nope. In fact, I
don't have a problem with any of the above arrangements, nor do I believe that
a gay couple wishing to marry undermines the institution of marriage. I don't believe
that giving the gay community access to marriage dishonors the institution in
any way, and I don't think that folks wanting to marry are attacking my
marriage.
Is my marriage
under attack? Some days. But it has nothing to do with my gay friends
wanting to marry. It has to do with the two people who make up my
marriage. We don't make time for each other, and sometimes we don't even
care. We choose our personal interests over each other. I'd rather
watch TV than have sex. He'd rather play video games than talk politics
with me. I work late and come home when he's asleep. He has meetings, so
I eat at home with our "kids" by myself. We argue. We have good
times, too, of course--but I'm specifically discussing the ways in which my
marriage is "under attack". It has nothing to do with others. The
longevity of my marriage is up to two people, and no one else. For others to say that
marriage is threatened by anything but the individuals who comprise the union
is disingenuous at best, and homophobic at worst. If we really think marriage
is the sacred, honorable institution we claim it is, then we will do three
things: make it easier for people to enter into it, insist that each couple
"own" their marriage and not blame others if things go wrong, and
stop telling people who they can and cannot marry.
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Well said April!
Well said April!
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